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Summary
A viral tweet asking women to share their scary experiences with men sparked thousands of responses, with many women sharing how they got brutalised by the men in their lives.
A woman was coming back from work when she was approached by a man offering her a ride to her destination. She refused, as she believed she should be cautious with strangers. What follows next was a tale she would never forget.
“Thank you for the ride, but there is no need,” she said.
This response gets the man agitated and annoyed. He becomes angry that a woman would refuse his offer of a ride. This gets on his nerves and as a retaliation or to teach the woman a lesson, he begins to insult her to get a reaction from her. When he notices she is not moved or perturbed by his insult, he becomes violent to elicit a response from her. This is just one of the numerous cases women face in their daily lives, as they detailed their experiences following a recent tweet by @ marjoules asking women to share their scary experiences with men.
The now-viral tweet has garnered over 6.9k likes, 1k retweets, and 2.4m views. Its comments and quotes feature so many women from different walks of life, each sharing a negative experience they have had with a man.
@Jey_Vamp shared her harrowing account of abuse at the hands of a former boyfriend, who requested his things. However, when she returned the item, it resulted in an issue of kidnapping and torture, she said.
“I dated this boy for a short while when I was in school. I noticed weird things about him, so I broke up with him. He called me one evening to say he left something at my place, so I should return it. If not, he was going to do this and do that. I took a bike to his place, which wasn’t so far from mine. When I got there, I called him to come outside and get his things. He came outside, dragged me into his house and locked the doors.”
She went on to highlight how the bike man who brought her, despite hearing her pleas, did not come to her rescue.
“While inside his place, this guy started hitting me. He literally broke everything he could find on my body. I was screaming for my life and nobody said a thing or even came to tell him to stop. He tied me to a chair and continued to hit me for hours!!! After he was done, he sat there and said all sorts of things. I begged, cried, screamed, nothing. It was already middle of the night at this point. Afterwards, he knelt down and started begging me. ‘I didn’t know what came over me.’”
This unfortunate incident shows how manipulative abusers can be once they don’t get their way by luring victims under false pretences.
Another woman Adesuwa____, described a terrifying situation after she blocked a man’s phone number and tried to kill her when he found out she had blocked him.
“This guy asked for my number at night and I gave it to him because he looked weird and I was walking home alone. I got home and blocked the number. Long story short, this guy hit me with his car and tried to kill me the next time he saw me because I blocked him.”
This story demonstrates the dangers women face even in everyday situations. Her initial decision to give her number out of fear for her safety exposes the pressure many women feel to appease a potentially threatening man.
“My neighbour broke my window and threatened to kill me with a knife because I dared ask him to pay a backlog of bills. He actually was ready to stab me. I ran in just in time and locked my door. Even with that, he still attempted to break the door,” Bawzz_lady tweeted her own frightening incident of a neighbour who threatened to kill her just because she asked him to pay is previous bills.
All these stories recounted by each of these women simply show how quickly mundane disputes can turn violent for women. The neighbour’s extreme reaction to a simple request for payment displays a disturbing sense of entitlement and disregard for the woman’s safety.
According to WHO reports, globally, about 1 in 3 (30%) of women worldwide have been subjected to either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
These experiences reflect the societal issues related to gender dynamics and power imbalances. The fact that so many women responded to the tweet with similar stories explains that these are not isolated incidents but rather part of a larger pattern of gender-based violence.
