A social media post on X, shared by @tomi_waziri on September 8, 2025, has sparked heated reactions after she advised wives to find alternative ways to satisfy their husbands’ sexual urges, even when they are tired.
In the viral post, @tomi_waziri narrated how her husband, when she is too exhausted for sex, often asks to suck her breasts. She described this as relaxing for men and encouraged wives to discover other ways to make their husbands happy.
“I will tell him, baby. I’m very stressed and he will say ok baby, I understand then in the next one minute the next thing my husband will say is but I can suck Br3ast right?”, she tweeted, “ I will just chuckle, lie on my side to position myself very well for him to do his thing.”
She infantilised men, saying, “They will always have that child instinct when it comes to that thing called breast/”
Feminists online criticised the message, calling it a dangerous narrative that normalises women’s exhaustion while centring men’s pleasure. They asserted that the advice promotes a dangerous narrative for men to brutalise, rape, and kill their wives due to sexual entitlements.
“This rhetoric that women should prioritise men’s sexual satisfaction over their own well-being is harmful and is embedded in rape culture. Sick or tired? Just lie down and let him stick it in.” User@yinkatheparrot wrote, “Just gave birth. You can use your mouth. It’s never about men understanding that women are human and get fatigued.”
Similarly, user @Slut4Lilith__ called out the original poster for pushing such dangerous narrative, “Pushing Harmful narratives like this, in a world where women have been brutalized, maimed and a good number of times even killed cause they were too tired or unwell to cook or do chores or “Find alternative ways to please their husband” is wild!”
“I say this in the nicest way possible, your husband should take your no as no. Wives do not owe their husbands ways to sexually pleasure them. Wives are not sex machines or objects.”
