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Summary
A viral post by @missionarylani on X has sparked outrage after she revealed that musician Alexander Dapo harassed her following her participation in his music video. The incident has prompted widespread condemnation and renewed discussions about the sexualisation and harassment of women in professional settings in Nigeria.
A young woman identified as Tolani (@missionarylani on X) has revealed that upcoming Nigerian musician Alexander Dapo harassed and conducted himself unprofessionally following her appearance in his music video. Her claim, shared on X on December 5, 2024, detailed how the artist persisted in making unwelcome romantic advances toward her during and after the project despite her efforts to maintain a professional boundary.
In her post, @missionarylani revealed that Dapo contacted her on September 1, 2024, to feature in the music video for a Christian-themed song. After agreeing to participate, she was presented with a plot involving an on-screen kiss, which she opposed due to personal and religious reasons.
“He sent me the plot of the music video, and it involved kissing I wasn’t comfortable with it, but I told him my parents were aware I was doing this. I managed to convince him to make the kiss fake ( me turning my head and blocking the camera) he strongly disagreed, but I got my way),” she stated.
Following the shoot at the University of Lagos waterfront, with her sister accompanying her for support, Dapo reportedly commented about how the project was divinely inspired and described @missionarylani as his “dream wife.”
“He kept talking about how this music video was special and how God revealed it to him that it would change his life, and how he had this fantasy of a wedding like this…”
However, she dismissed the remarks, attributing them to his excitement about the project, and waited to collect her remaining payment. However, Dapo’s behaviour escalated after the shoot, with him sending her romantic messages, proposing marriage, and insinuating inappropriate offers under the guise of professional collaboration.
One of the messages he sent her said, “I find you sexually attractive. I noticed you the day you came. And when I got back, I regretted that we didn’t kiss. But I wish we did it off camera and alone,” to which she replied “are you sane?”
In one instance, which she backed with screenshots, Dapo reportedly messaged her, offering payment and food if she would meet with him, prompting her to block him. “I want us to meet and fuck. I thought you’d understand me by now. I left because I can’t push you for sex, but if you’re down, I’m down too,” the message reads.
Undeterred, he allegedly sent an email criticising her for acting “like a child.” The victim, who was 19 years old at the time of the incident, expressed outrage over his actions, stating, “You are mentally ill; leave me alone!”
This incident has reignited conversations about how Nigerian men often sexualise and harass women, even in professional settings. Women in the creative and entertainment industries frequently report similar experiences where their professionalism is undermined by inappropriate behaviour. Despite growing awareness, many victims face stigmatisation or are dismissed when they speak out.
