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Summary
A Nigerian wife has resisted the pressure to mourn her deceased husband. She insisted that his concubines should do the mourning.
In reaction to his infidelity, an unidentified Nigerian wife has refused to mourn her husband following his death. She insisted that his concubines whom he was cheating, should perform the mourning responsibility instead.
This story was posted anonymously online by an unknown family member. According to the post, the wife came to her late husband’s burial wearing a pepper red lipstick and left immediately he was put into the ground.
She told the family members that the side-chic her late husband has been involved with should be the one to do the honour of mourning him, not her.
“Please, how can I get my late brother’s wife to mourn him? This woman came to the burial with a pepper-red lipstick, and immediately they put him in the ground, she left. Her excuse is that we should get the side chick he died with to mourn him. We have talked and talked, but she won’t listen,” the post reads.
In Nigerian society, where patriarchy has a strong hold, women are subjected to mourning rites. They are compelled to wear specific clothing, eat certain foods, and remain secluded, among other things. These harmful practices stemmed from the patriarchal belief that a woman’s identity, worth, and status are tied to her husband. Although the nature of the husband’s death is unknown, the wife’s resistance to the oppressive system of mourning an unfaithful husband has sparked an online debate and conversations about the unfair traditions expected of widows in Nigeria.
Below are some social media reactions, commending the woman for resisting mourning rites:
“She’s a good woman for even attending the burial. I would be on vacation, sipping red wine on top of the red lipstick. Make him family and the side chic mourn him abeg,” @Engineer Asiyah Abdullahi said.
“She only wears a pepper red lipstick, I go wear those things he doesn’t like me wearing, when he was alive, like leg chain, nose ring, crop top, etc, with one bottle of life beer,” Nwaonuma Chidima added.
“Madam, I dey your back. I support with this pair of red shoes and more red lipstick. No be you kpai am,” @Nkechinyere Agu.
“But the guy na werey cos if no be say na werey, which one be how can I get her to mourn her husband shey if na the wife die, will he ask his brother to mourn her ni cos me no understand this thing again abi when did mourning become forceful?” @Princess Adetutu Balogun
“I hope she accompanied the red lipstick with a ceremonial gown that has a corset and gele to match the shoe and handbag?” @Exquisite Sunshine.
