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Pastor Joshua Kesena, a resident pastor at CCI Benin Campus, has received significant backlash on social media after boasting about repeatedly forgetting his wife's birthday. Footage has also resurfaced where his wife complained that he pressured her into sex, two weeks after birthing their child.
Pastor Joshua Kesena, a resident Pastor at CCI Benin Campus, has come under scrutiny after he boasted about forgetting his wife’s birthday for two years, despite knowing that her love language is gift-giving.
Pastor Joshua, who describes himself as a “former sex, porn, masturbation, and drug addict,” made the statement on August 5, 2025.
“If you told me I’d hurt my wife twice in the same way, I’d have laughed. But I did. On her birthday. Two years in a row!” He tweeted. “I could see her struggle to express her hurt.
His thread attracted over 600 comments, with X users describing his action as insensitive. A relationship counsellor, @_Phoenixblvck, tweeted, “The same wife whose love language is gift giving/receiving. And he did the same thing twice in a row. This is more serious than forgetting, please. But the lesson we should be learning is to be slow to speak. Odiegwu.”
Wizarab10, a popular misogynist known for favouring negative stereotypes against women, ironically expressed shock at the post,
“You kept emphasising she loves gifts, but it never occurred to you to do it. You know! It is not like you don’t know. But you never take it to heart (this is even worse).”
Following the outrage, a video surfaced in which Joshua’s partner highlighted that he pressures her to have sex after postpartum.
“Two weeks after I had a baby, you started asking for sexual things. And you know, as a person who just had a baby, I’m just trying to survive,” she said. “I didn’t say anything, and I was just enduring it because I just didn’t want to fail you. And I started crying.”
Currently in Nigeria, marital rape is not explicitly recognised as a crime under the country’s main legal frameworks, the Criminal Code and the Penal Code. However, the Violence Against Persons Prohibition Act (VAPPA) prohibited various forms of domestic violence, including sexual coercion.
