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On July 7, 2026, a Nigerian surrogate mother revealed that the emotional burden of carrying a child that is not hers has been one of the hardest challenges of her life.
The woman is a Nigerian gestational surrogate who chose to appear masked during the interview to protect her privacy.
Speaking on the Cruise TV YouTube channel, she shared how she had to keep reminding herself that the child does not belong to her.
“Emotionally, it’s not easy. Even when I started the journey, when the pregnancy was three months, I called my nurse to say that I didn’t think I could cope again because it’s not easy to carry what is not yours. When you start having the emotional attachment, you keep reminding yourself that this is not mine. I tell myself it is a ‘job,’ and that helps me cope, but the emotions still come and go.”
Speaking on what pushed her into surrogacy, she shared how her husband’s lack of taking responsibility for her deceased second child led to her decision to be a surrogate for well-to-do parents.
“Unfortunately, my husband is not the person who is hardworking, and he doesn’t take responsibility. I do work. There is no work I cannot do. When I became pregnant the second time, I could no longer work. We couldn’t even afford hospital bills.”
She added that complications during the second pregnancy, which lasted from the third month through the seventh, eventually led to the death of the baby after the family was told to go to a general hospital for a Caesarean section they could not afford.
“That baby died, and that was the reason I made that decision. Instead of giving him another baby, I would rather help people who have the money to take care of me. If you don’t have the money to care for my health, I won’t do it for you,” she stated.
She revealed that her decision to become a surrogate was not driven by altruism, but by a structural calculation: that she would rather carry children for financially stable intended parents than risk another pregnancy in conditions of poverty and an irresponsible partner.
She also disclosed that in her first surrogacy arrangement, she made a mistake of declining financial compensation beyond her medical care, accommodation, and monthly allowances
“The only money they spent was on the process and for my allowance because they normally give us monthly, weekly, wardrobe allowance and accommodation fee, but I told them I don’t want any compensation aside from that. But that was a mistake,” she stated. “It is not worth it.”
