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Across four continents, male intimate partners are organising sexual abuse through Telegram, porn sites, and hacking forums against the women in their lives. These men are not strangers but people who sleep in the same bed with their wives, girlfriends, and partners.
The 62 Million Visitors Problem
In February 2026, CNN released an investigative report exposing a pornography site called Motherless.com that recorded 62 million visits from men. Many of these men were accessing what the site’s community calls sleep content, which are videos of unconscious women being sexually assaulted.
CNN’s investigation discovered that inside Motherless chat groups and across Telegram channels, men were explicitly discussing drugging and trading the names of sedatives that could be used on their partners. They discuss how to dose and the amount to use on their wives. They post photographs and livestreams of their wives.
What Men Are Building
In less than two years, investigations across four continents have exposed the same infrastructure where husbands, boyfriends, fathers, and brothers use encrypted messaging apps and pornography platforms as organising spaces for sexual violence against women they claim to love.
In France 2024, Dominique Pelicot drugged his wife, Gisele, unconscious and invited over 50 men to rape her repeatedly, for more than 20 years, and she was never aware of it until Dominique got exposed. He organised this through a dating website called Without Her Knowledge. By the time the trial concluded, it raised urgent questions about how many other Dominique Pelicots were operating in similar online spaces, unseen and unknown today.
In Poland 2026, A man named Piotr spent months openly discussing with CNN how he drugged his wife to rape her. He detailed his methods, one of which was dosing her with sedatives. When asked if his wife suspects anything, he said, “For now, I’m hiding everything well, but I have to be careful.” Piotr operated within the same “Zzz” chat group where dozens of other men were exchanging identical tactics, how much sedative to use, which drugs work best, and how to avoid overdose.
In Italy 2026, Valentina, a mother of two, discovered that her husband of 20 years had been drugging her with alcohol and sedatives, then filming himself raping her unconscious body. She found the videos by accident. She had no bruises. She had no memory. She had only the evidence of her husband’s camera work. She stated, “I can’t conceive of the fact that a woman could be treated like slaughterhouse meat. Because in the end, that’s what I was.”
In England, in 2018, Zoe Watts learned that her husband of 16 years had been crushing their son’s sleeping medication into her tea for years. Every night, she felt grateful for that cup of tea before bed, grateful to rest after a long day. She did not know he was using her son’s prescription to make her unconscious so he could rape her. She said, “You don’t expect anything other than innocence to come from your partner.”
The Perpetrators Who Are Raping Their Wives Online
From this series of investigations, it is evident that the men facilitating and committing this abuse are not strangers hiding in dark corners, as movies and books would have us believe. They are the men women marry.
Across Telegram channels with up to 70,000 members, men have described themselves as:
- Husbands who drug their wives and sell access to other men
- Fathers who film their daughters and trade the footage
- Brothers who upload videos of their sisters
- Boyfriends who livestream the assault of girlfriends for $20 per viewer
- Coworkers and classmates of victims who film women without consent
- Family members who film mothers and daughters in private spaces
The MaskPark Telegram group, which at its peak had 314,924 members, circulated videos secretly recorded in fitting rooms, university dormitories, public transportation, and inside victims’ homes. One Chinese woman, Grace, told Naija Feminists Media, Fathers, brothers, husbands and boyfriends sell porn videos and pictures in the group and even target babies.”
The Online Academies Where Men Learn to Rape
What researchers and investigators are calling rape academies or schools of violence are Telegram groups and porn site chat forums where men teach each other how to drug, rape, and evade accountability.
On dosing: Users in the “Zzz” chat group debated pharmaceutical strategy. One man wrote, “Been wanting to do this to my Mrs for ages. I can get [drug], but honestly shit scared of overdose.” Another responded, “ALWAYS start low. You’re thinking long game, so if first time ain’t enough, up the dose.”
A third posted specific instructions, “[Amount] ml in a milkshake. She felt nauseous, so gave her a tablet of [drug]. Did f**k her well, but she was not out enough and had no more [drug] on me.”
On equipment: Inside MaskPark, men openly advertised and sold pinhole cameras, hidden cameras disguised as everyday objects, power outlets, screws, cleaning bottles, shampoo bottles, and tissue boxes. The cameras were marketed for installation in hotel rooms, public bathrooms, locker rooms, fitting rooms, and homes.
On commerce: A man claiming to be based in Ceuta, Spain, advertised a “sleeping liquid” delivery service on Telegram, promising tasteless, odourless sedatives shipped to any address globally for €150 ($175). His marketing pitch was, “Your wife won’t feel anything and won’t remember anything.”
On monetisation: Men in these groups livestream the rape of unconscious women, charging viewers $20 per stream and accepting cryptocurrency. One man told CNN: “Yeah, it went well…that night 3 guys bought…and I streamed my unconscious wife to them.” When asked if viewers directed his actions, he said: “They told me what to do, and I did it.”
On surveillance: In April 2026, researchers at AI Forensics documented Telegram groups where men trade hacking tools and spyware. Posts advertised, “I hack and recover any type of social media service. I can spy on your partner’s account. Send me a private message.”
Another, “Hi, do you have the desire to spy on a girl’s gallery? We sell a bot that does it for info DM.” There were over 18,000 references to spying or surveillance across just 16 Italian and Spanish Telegram groups studied over six weeks.
The Victim Is Usually Not a Stranger
For decades, so many organisations, institutions and law enforcement have warned women about the danger of strangers. “Don’t walk alone at night.” “Don’t accept drinks from people you don’t know.” “Trust your instincts around unfamiliar men.” “Carry a pepper spray with you.” “Don’t dress a certain way”
While these advices are good to the ear, it hides the primary threat against women and girls, and there is data to back this up. According to England and Wales crime data from March 2025, 43% of recorded sexual assaults involved a partner or ex-partner.
More critically, the proportion of victims assaulted while unconscious or asleep has risen to 23% from 21% over the last decade. These victims are not assaulted by strangers in alleys. They are assaulted in their matrimonial beds by the men who promised to protect them.
In the Pelicot case, Gisèle was raped over 200 times by 70 men, organised by her husband. The crime was not a single violent encounter but a systematic sexual exploitation orchestrated by the person closest to her.
In Valentina’s case, she discovered the videos of her husband assaulting her drugged body after 20 years of marriage. She stated that discovering the evidence was, in one sense, fortunate: “I was lucky to find the videos because truly it would have been a bit… difficult to believe, because I had no marks.”
Amanda Stanhope woke up repeatedly to find bruises and evidence of assault, but when she asked her partner to stop, he gaslit her. He told her, “You’re on too much medication. You must be imagining it. That didn’t happen. You’re mental. You’re crazy.” She believed him because she had no memory. Despite the evidence her body revealed of the crime committed against her, her mind had no memory of it.
Zoe Watts felt grateful for the cup of tea her husband made her. It was an act of care that felt like intimacy. It was, instead, the mechanism of her rape.
A Woman Is More Vulnerable in Her Marriage Than in the Street
This is the reality that must reshape how we think about women’s safety. A married woman is statistically more likely to be drugged and raped by her husband than to be assaulted by a stranger. She is more likely to be victimised by the father of her children than by an intruder. She is more likely to be exploited by her boyfriend than by a man she meets on the street.
The perpetrators have keys to her home. Access to her prescription medications. Knowledge of her sleep patterns. Familiarity with her body’s responses. They have time. They have trust. They have the intimacy that makes abuse possible.
And now, they have platforms. Telegram, with over 1 billion monthly active users, provides the anonymity, speed, and community that allows these men to organise. Motherless.com, with 62 million visits in a single month, serves the market. The algorithmic architecture of these platforms, which favour extreme content and create echo chambers of shared deviance, normalises it.
An Unending Violence: Critical Timelines
December 2024: A German investigation by ARD and its STRG_F team exposed Telegram rape chat groups with up to 70,000 members discussing and organising sexual assault. Men shared tips on sedation, posted photographs, and offered their wives to other men. Some groups were shut down, but investigators found that users were simply sent links to new ones. The abuse continued.
July 2025: Naija Feminists Media reported on the MaskPark Telegram group, where Chinese men traded nude footage of women and girls. The group had 314,924 members. Men were selling hidden cameras and footage of women filmed without consent in their own homes, in public spaces, in bathrooms and dressing rooms. The organisation was industrial in scale.
February 2026: CNN’s investigation into Motherless.com revealed over 20,000 videos of “sleep” content recordings of unconscious women being raped. The site had 62 million visits in February alone. Inside associated chat groups, men were trading instructions on which sedatives to use on their wives and girlfriends.
April 2026: AI Forensics researchers analysed nearly 2.8 million messages across 16 Italian and Spanish Telegram groups. They documented over 24,000 members posting 82,723 images, videos, and audio files of abuse. Access to some groups costs €20-€50 or a €5 per month subscription.
One man in a Telegram group, after sharing advice on drugging his partner, signed off with: “I hope I’ve helped in some way, my friend. Today and tomorrow are the best days to make it happen. Good luck to everyone.”
The Platforms
Telegram, Motherless.com, and other platforms are not incidental to this abuse. They are foundational to it.
They provide:
- Anonymity that allows men to organise without fear of identification
- Scale that turns individual perpetrators into networked communities
- Legitimisation through the presence of thousands of other men doing the same thing
- Instruction in the form of detailed how-to conversations
- Commerce that turns abuse into a market with buyers and sellers
- Speed that allows real-time coordination and livestreaming of crimes
A French lawmaker, Sandrine Josso, who was herself drugged and assaulted, called these groups
“online rape academies.” She stated, “I would even call them an online rape academy, where every subject is taught. There are all the ‘subjects’ and ‘disciplines’ needed to become a good rapist or sexual predator.”
The platforms have not shut down these communities because the architecture itself, anonymity, encryption, scale, and algorithmic amplification of extreme content are what make the abuse possible.
Shame Must Change Sides
Gisèle Pelicot, after her husband was convicted of organising her rape, declared to the world, “Shame must change sides.”
She was right. The shame does not belong to the women who were assaulted in their homes by the men they married. The shame belongs to the men who did the assaulting. The shame belongs to the men building a community around abuse. The shame belongs to the platforms that provide the infrastructure.
Women have been told to be careful. Women have been told to watch out. Women have been told to fear the stranger.
What women must now understand is this: the danger is not always distant. It is sometimes intimate. It is sometimes the man who holds your hand. The man who promised to love you. The man who sleeps beside you.
The Role of Patriarchy and Toxic Masculinity
At its core, the idea of an academy that teaches men how to violate their wives is not an isolated deviance; it is an extreme manifestation of patriarchal conditioning. Patriarchy, as a system, is built on the unequal distribution of power, where men are positioned as authority figures and women as subordinates. Within this framework, dominance is not only normalised but often rewarded.
From a young age, many men are socialised to equate masculinity with control, sexual entitlement, and emotional suppression. This conditioning is reinforced through cultural narratives, media, and even peer validation. Phrases like be a man or take what is yours subtly and sometimes explicitly encourage aggression and entitlement, particularly in intimate relationships.
Toxic masculinity, in this context, becomes the behavioural expression of these beliefs. It frames power as something to be asserted over others, especially women and dismisses empathy, consent, and mutual respect as signs of weakness. When these ideas go unchallenged, they create fertile ground for abuse.
What makes this especially dangerous is how it operates within private spaces like marriage. The home, which should be a place of safety, becomes a site of control and violation. Women’s voices are often silenced through fear, economic dependence, social stigma, or cultural expectations to “endure” marriage at all costs. This silence then reinforces the cycle, allowing abuse to continue unchecked.
In this sense, the so-called academy is not just a physical space; it symbolises a larger societal system that has, for generations, trained men informally to dominate and women to tolerate.
Legal and Ethical Implications
Legally, the acts described as drugging a partner and engaging in non-consensual sex constitute serious criminal offences, including sexual assault and, in many jurisdictions, rape. Increasingly, countries around the world are recognising marital rape as a crime, challenging the outdated notion that consent is permanently granted within marriage. People come up with unhinged claims that “ but you are married, so it is not entirely rape, or at least you were unconscious”. They create the idea of escapism to avoid lawsuits.
However, legal frameworks alone are not enough. In many societies, there remains a significant gap between what the law states and what is practised. Survivors of marital rape often face barriers such as: lack of awareness that what they experienced is a crime, fear of stigma or retaliation, weak enforcement mechanisms and cultural or religious pressures to remain silent.
Ethically, the issue goes even deeper. At the heart of it is the principle of bodily autonomy, the fundamental human right to have control over one’s own body. Marriage does not dissolve this right. Consent must be ongoing, enthusiastic, and freely given, regardless of the relationship between individuals.
The moral failure in cases like this is not just in the act itself, but in the mindset that justifies it, the belief that intimacy can be demanded, taken, or enforced. This strips individuals, particularly women, of their humanity and reduces them to objects of use rather than partners in a relationship.
Conclusion
Whether this case is an isolated incident, a misreported story, or a representation of a deeper underground issue, it reveals something undeniable: the fight against gender-based violence is far from over.
The idea that men could be taught to harm their partners is not just disturbing; it is a call to action. Governments, communities, and individuals must work collectively to dismantle the structures that enable such thinking and ensure that every woman is safe, respected, and free.
