Backlash as Man Brags About Denying Sister University Education Over Household Chores

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A Nigerian man identified as Ade omo Ade on X has sparked outrage on social media after boasting about how he and his brothers once denied their sister university education for refusing to do household chores.

In a post on X, Ade wrote:

“My sister once missed uni because she was becoming a feminist and grown at 18. We kept getting reports that she refused to do chores at home and always said ‘I’m 18, I’m grown.’”

He said that when his sister later gained admission into a private university, he and his brothers refused to pay her tuition for a year, which forced her to miss school. According to him, after she “came back to her senses,” they eventually supported her, and she is now an OAP. 

He framed this outcome as an example of “tough love.”

The post quickly drew backlash from feminists and other social media users who called him out for normalising financial abuse and patriarchal control.

One user, @Steadi_lady, wrote: “This is exactly why women couldn’t divorce men back then, not because they weren’t experiencing abuse or violence, but because they were financially dependent on them.”

She noted that a man who could treat his own sister this way would likely do the same to his wife, and pointed out that he even shared the story as though it were something to be proud of.

Another user, @utu_nku, commented: “You’re the type to financially abuse your wife and kids just cause you’re angry with them. I pour you spit.”

Similarly, @Moskeda_Pages added that he and his brothers had financially abused their sister, stressing that men who can do such things to their sisters will also do the same to their mothers, wives, and daughters, calling it “very evil.”

@carlella1 added: “Like I said, I wouldn’t wish to be at a man’s mercy even on my worst enemy. Not even their sisters are spared.”

Ade’s posts have since ignited conversations on X about financial control, gender inequality, and abuse. Financial abuse of women is rooted in patriarchal control and restricts their independence and access to resources.