TikToker, Uchegbu Joshua, Trains Men How to Prey on Orphaned Girls for Marriage

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Summary: On November 11, 2025, a Law student and a TikToker, Uchegbu Joshua, responded to a question about marrying women from orphanages by providing detailed instructions on how to approach orphanage homes, select girls, and marry them while avoiding bride price payments and family involvement.

On November 11, 2025, Uchegbu Joshua, a TikToker known as councilsmiles, who is currently pursuing a law degree, posted a video in response to another TikToker, King Eighty, who asked, “How can you get a wife from there and process?”

In his response, Joshua provided a step-by-step instruction on how to target girls from orphanages for marriage while avoiding bride price and family involvement. He identified the primary advantage of marrying an orphan as avoiding bride price payments and family involvement. 

In his video, Joshua described approaching large orphanage homes, viewing available girls of legal age, and selecting one for marriage. He presented this as a straightforward transaction requiring no family negotiation or community involvement.

The video prompted immediate responses from women condemning the practice. On X (formerly Twitter), a woman identified as @twigblu, who previously worked with a girls’ NGO, wrote, 

“This is a terrible norm. When I worked for a girls’ NGO, there were men like this. They targeted girls who had no one and took them away to ‘marry them’—then the beatings started.”

Another commenter, @tythinks1, stated, “They source for the most vulnerable girls across every metric so that subjugation will be absolute. Now, this issue needs serious and urgent attention. The orphanage homes are failing these girls. This is sickening.”

The targeting of orphaned girls for marriage is not new. On the same day, Nurse Nonso, a girl child advocate, posted a video addressing the pattern. “This is the third time I’ve come across someone telling me that Igbo men now go to orphanage homes to marry teenage girls,” she stated. 

She described how men approach orphanages, marry girls from the facility, and then abuse them at home. “And they abuse these women from Genesis to Revelation,” she said. “Because one, she does not have a family. She has nobody to run to.”

Nurse Nonso noted that this strategy is becoming increasingly common among men in her community. 

“Most of our Igbo people now understand this thing, that most of them go to an orphanage home where they can get teenagers, those young, young girls to marry them. All the people they are dating in the community, in the society, those ones are not for marriage. They want girls who will be the ones to control.”